“We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)
Non-believers will probably disagree with what I’m about to say, and might even be offended, but I speak from experience. So I’ll just go ahead and say it, with no apologies. Without God, it is impossible to love.
Today, my wife and I celebrate our seventh wedding anniversary. Approximately one and a half years into our marriage, I became a believer. The forty seven years of my life leading up to that moment made me ready for what happened that day. I realized that my commitment to my marriage was something that I made before Him. He selected her for me, with wisdom that I wasn’t yet fully able to understand.
What is marriage? To some, it’s nothing more than a legal contract. But marriage was created by God long before our legal system existed. He designed it for many reasons, one of which is that we should not be alone (Genesis 2:18). But a deeper understanding of God’s word helps us to realize that He wasn’t simply talking about companionship. He was helping us to develop a way to love Him, through our love for each other.
As I’ve been experiencing lately, these words are just flowing right now, as the Holy Spirit puts them into my heart, so forgive me if I’m all over the place. I trust His direction, knowing that He has a point to make. I just don’t know what it is yet.
God wants our hearts. We can only give ourselves to Him with love. As much as I claim to love Him, my ability to show it to Him is limited by my ability to show it to my wife. At the moment I professed by love to Him, I also professed my commitment to my marriage. Without that commitment, I couldn’t possibly be the man that God wants me to be.
Marriage takes work. It’s not always easy, but He makes it worthwhile. My wife is exactly who I need to be with. How do I know that? He put us together, and He doesn’t make mistakes. The changes that have happened in me over the past seven years would boggle the minds of anyone who knew me prior. Being “born again” is an understatement.
The days are coming when all will know God’s truth. Right now, we’re living in a world filled with options. Some choose to believe in God, while others choose to be the gods of their own lives, because they doubt His existence. But with doubt comes hopelessness. And with hopelessness comes the inability to truly love, because for them, the future is too blurred to see what God has planned for us. Love isn’t just about today. It’s about forever. It’s easy to claim love for someone, but that love can only exist when God is there to nurture it. Other emotions are often mistaken for love, but they are simply temporary, blinded by the moment.
Today, I thank God for my wife. I don’t know how I’ve ever lived without her. I have no regrets about my past, because everything that happened was necessary, according to God’s plan. He took all those years to mold me into the man that I am, while taking years to turn her into the woman that she is. Together, we are one creation, in Him. As one, we hold each other up in times of need. We support each other, and we sometimes redirect each other, as needed. Together, hand in hand, we will walk the path that God wants us to walk, and in the end, we will enter His narrow gate that only a few shall ever see.
We love, because He first loved us.
Have a great day everyone!